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 Stress
 

Stress is a part of life.
We have all been there. Bills, work, marrige, kids and even pets can all put stress in your life. Stress can lead to serious illness even death.

What Stress Is...Definitions

This is a dangerous topic!

There have been many different definitions of what stress is, whether used by psychologists, medics, management consultants or others. There seems to have been something approaching open warfare between competing definitions: Views have been passionately held and aggressively defended.

What complicates this is that intuitively we all feel that we know what stress is, as it is something we have all experienced. A definition should therefore be obvious…except that it is not.

Problems of Definition
One problem with a single definition is that stress is made up of many things: It is a family of related experiences, pathways, responses and outcomes caused by a range of different events or circumstances. Different people experience different aspects and identify with different definitions.

Hans Selye (one of the founding fathers of stress research) identified another part of this problem when he saw that different types of definition operate in different areas of knowledge. To a lawyer or a linguist, words have very precise, definite and fixed meanings. In other fields, ideas and definitions continue evolving as research and knowledge expands.

Selye’s view in 1956 was that “stress is not necessarily something bad – it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental.” Selye believed that the biochemical effects of stress would be experienced irrespective of whether the situation was positive or negative.

Since then, ideas have moved on. In particular, the harmful biochemical and long-term effects of stress have rarely been observed in positive situations.

The current consensus
Now, the most commonly accepted definition of stress (mainly attributed to Richard S Lazarus) is that stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.

People feel little stress when they have the time, experience and resources to manage a situation. They feel great stress when they think they can't handle the demands put upon them. Stress is therefore a negative experience. And it is not an inevitable consequence of an event: It depends a lot on people's perceptions of a situation and their real ability to cope with it.

This is the main definition used by this site, although we also recognize that there is an intertwined instinctive stress response to unexpected events. The stress response inside us is therefore part instinct and part to do with the way we think.

Changing the way you think can be as easy as commiting to a new life, one filled with happiness and joy. Make the commitment to live life to the fullest and help others do the same.

 


Change the way you think!
 

How Do We Cope?

AN INDIVIDUAL STRESS MANAGEMENT PROGRAM

  • Make an effort to stop negative thoughts
  • Plan some fun
  • Refocus the negative into the positive
  • Take a break
  • Think positively

Physical activity:

  • Start a physical activity program. Most experts recommend doing 20 minutes of aerobic activity three times per week.
  • Decide on a specific time, type, amount, and level of physical activity. Fit this time into your schedule so it can be part of your routine.
  • Find a buddy to exercise with -- it is more fun and it will encourage you to stick with your routine.
  • You do not have to join a gym -- 20 minutes of brisk walking outdoors will do the trick.

Nutrition:

  • Plan to eat foods that improve your health and well-being. For example, increase the amount of fruits and vegetables you eat.
  • Use the food guide pyramid to help you make healthy food choices.
  • Eat the right amount of food on a regular schedule.

Social support:

  • Make an effort to interact socially with people. Even though you feel stressed, you will be glad to meet your friends, if only to get your mind off of things.
  • Nurture yourself and others.
  • Reach out to other people.

Relaxation:

  • Learn about and try using one or more of the many relaxation techniques, such as guided imagery, listening to music, or practicing yoga or meditation. One or more of these techniques should work for you.
  • Listen to your body.
  • Take a mini retreat.
  • Take time for personal interests and hobbies.

RESOURCES

If these stress management techniques do not work for you, there are professionals, such as licensed social workers, psychologists, and psychiatrists, who can help. Schedule time with one of these mental health professionals to help you learn stress management strategies, including relaxation techniques. Support groups of various types are also available through the community.

We hope that you gained some insight too the problems we face in everyday life but now you are better equiped to deal with them as they arise. Live life to the fullest and help others do the same.

 

 

 

 
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